Stop Killing Your Dreams

by | Feb 16, 2020 | Lifestyle, Motivation | 174 comments

Yes, Stop Killing your Dreams. Stop Being Realistic!

I listen to women killing their dreams every day without them even realizing it. What do I mean?

Me: “What is your goal?” Client: with a doubtful voice “Well, let me be realistic…How about losing 20 Ibs or from size 20 to 18”

Me: “If I could wave a magic wand and grant your every wish, how many Ibs Kgs (or dress sizes would you like to shift? What would you say”

Client: with a smile “I would like to lose 60 pounds or go back to fit a size 8. I’d like to look and feel the way I did before I had children”

Me: “Your goal is to lose 60 pounds, fit into a size 8 or get your pre-baby body back. We will focus on achieving this 20 pounds at a time 1 dress size at a time”

I get it, it’s easy to stop believing or even imagining that what you really want is possible, therefore settling for what sounds realistic.

This flawed way of thinking is inadvertently killing your dreams. Minimizing or making your future realistic is the failure to realize that extraordinary feats are achieved by ordinary people. If they can do it you can do it too

11 years ago, when I invested in my 1st fitness coach, he asked what my goal was. I pointed to the cover of a fitness magazine and said “I want to look like her” the sexy, toned, bikini-clad woman that unapologetically graced the cover. I grew up chubby and had never looked anything close to that in my life – but I wanted the impossible. I remember getting goosebumps right after speaking life to my dream goal

From the moment I pointed to my dream (the lady on the magazine) something shifted. I knew that to look like that woman, I needed to roll up my sleeves, quit bull shitting and go to work. My big hairy audacious goal (BHAG) gave me the focus to commit to what I needed to do.

6 months later, after dedicating my heart, soul, every waking moment to my goal, my dream became a reality – my body transformed – a bonus – I eventually graced magazine covers.

When it comes to your goals – health, finances, relationship, business/job Dream Big. Speak it out loud. Claim it. Let your dream inspire you, pull you in, force you to level up to become a different person as you work to achieve it.

As they say – aim for the moon, if you miss, land on the stars. What dream have you denied yourself or minimized because it feels unreachable or unattainable?

As you begin a new week, be true to your dreams. Don’t care what anyone thinks or says about it or you – matter of fact, no need to share your dreams with everyone shhh –  say YES to dreaming big, speak life to your dreams as I did 11 years ago, know that anything is possible and watch your mindset and actions begin to change as you begin rise to your dream.  Your words ARE POWERFUL – Drop an “I will dream BIG” in the comments💕

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174 Comments

  1. Jane
    Jane on February 17, 2020 at 12:35 am

    I WILL DREAM BIG

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    • Phoebe Kagumba-Sibanda
      Phoebe Kagumba-Sibanda on February 17, 2020 at 1:44 pm

      I will dream BIG!
      I have already begun my journey towards making my dreams valid!

      Reply
      • Finian
        Finian on February 18, 2020 at 2:28 pm

        I will dream big

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      • Faith Wambui
        Faith Wambui on February 18, 2020 at 11:09 pm

        I will dream BIG

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        • Molline
          Molline on February 20, 2020 at 6:53 am

          I am dreaming big

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      • Esther
        Esther on February 19, 2020 at 12:07 pm

        I Will dream Big

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    • Vera Simwa
      Vera Simwa on February 17, 2020 at 2:51 pm

      I will dream big

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      • Sonnie
        Sonnie on February 17, 2020 at 5:31 pm

        I will dream big

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        • Fatuma
          Fatuma on February 18, 2020 at 9:36 am

          I am dreaming big

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        • Alice
          Alice on February 18, 2020 at 5:57 pm

          I will dream big!

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      • Faith.
        Faith. on February 17, 2020 at 7:02 pm

        I WILL DREAM BIG!!!

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        • Alice waiganjo
          Alice waiganjo on February 18, 2020 at 9:37 pm

          I will dream big

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      • Fiona Wasonga
        Fiona Wasonga on February 18, 2020 at 2:37 pm

        I will dream big

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      • Carolyne
        Carolyne on February 18, 2020 at 7:12 pm

        I will dream big

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    • Monica
      Monica on February 17, 2020 at 3:16 pm

      I will dream big

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      • Monica mwaja
        Monica mwaja on February 17, 2020 at 3:21 pm

        Would love to loss belly fat BMI is obese due to my height

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        • Esther Wanyaga
          Esther Wanyaga on February 18, 2020 at 6:36 am

          I will dream big

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        • Jane
          Jane on February 18, 2020 at 1:24 pm

          Before giving birth I used to be size 12. Now am size 16. I would like to dream big i.e going back to size 12

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        • Anastacia
          Anastacia on February 20, 2020 at 9:18 am

          I will dream big.

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      • Lilian
        Lilian on February 17, 2020 at 4:42 pm

        I will dream big and make my steps one at a time.

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        • Uthaa Faith
          Uthaa Faith on February 18, 2020 at 7:30 am

          I will dream big and have started making steps

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    • Winfred wanjiku
      Winfred wanjiku on February 17, 2020 at 5:38 pm

      I will dream big

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      • Anthony Solo
        Anthony Solo on February 23, 2020 at 3:07 am

        I will dream big

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    • Catherine
      Catherine on February 17, 2020 at 6:01 pm

      I will dream big.

      1. I want to be a fitness coach
      2. A Social media influencer
      3. Motivational speaker
      4. I want to lose 10 kgs

      I am shaking writing this, but these are my current BHAD’s

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    • Cynthis
      Cynthis on February 17, 2020 at 6:12 pm

      I will dream BIG

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    • Regina
      Regina on February 17, 2020 at 6:50 pm

      I will dream big

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    • Agnes Njuguna
      Agnes Njuguna on February 17, 2020 at 7:55 pm

      I will dream big

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    • IMELDA
      IMELDA on February 18, 2020 at 7:00 am

      I WILL DREAM BIG in silence.

      Reply
    • Kellen wanja
      Kellen wanja on February 18, 2020 at 8:15 am

      I will dream big

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    • Vivian
      Vivian on February 18, 2020 at 11:23 am

      I will dream big

      Reply
    • Aina oluwakemi
      Aina oluwakemi on February 19, 2020 at 5:43 am

      I will dream Big

      Reply
    • Deserve Tracy
      Deserve Tracy on February 20, 2020 at 6:31 am

      I’ll love it when I lose 30kgs

      Reply
    • Miriam
      Miriam on February 20, 2020 at 9:09 am

      I will dream BIG

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    • Janet
      Janet on February 21, 2020 at 12:08 pm

      I will dream big,thank you Mukami for always keepiñg women struggling with weight on toes.My dream is to have a flat tummy and a toned skin.

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      • Jane Mukami
        Jane Mukami on February 21, 2020 at 10:20 pm

        thanks for reading and your dreams are very valid:)

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    • Caroline kipkorir
      Caroline kipkorir on February 22, 2020 at 6:21 pm

      I will dream big

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    • Charity Njiru
      Charity Njiru on March 5, 2020 at 4:11 pm

      I will dream soooo big.

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    • Mary
      Mary on April 22, 2020 at 7:49 pm

      Thank you dear I really needed this.it has motivated me big time.i won’t kill my dreams

      Reply
    • Njeri
      Njeri on May 19, 2020 at 6:53 am

      I WILL DREAM BIG

      Reply
  2. Praxedes
    Praxedes on February 17, 2020 at 12:59 am

    I will dream big
    💕

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  3. Linet Onyango
    Linet Onyango on February 17, 2020 at 1:22 am

    I need to reduce my tummie.
    I look more years than I am it stresses me.I have a lot of worries as a widow coupled with weight issues…I have low self esteem.

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  4. Jalia minajire
    Jalia minajire on February 17, 2020 at 1:33 am

    I will dream big

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  5. Anne
    Anne on February 17, 2020 at 1:48 am

    I dream big!

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  6. Hannah
    Hannah on February 17, 2020 at 1:49 am

    Thanks for the advice. Any tips to to loose belly fat

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  7. Grace
    Grace on February 17, 2020 at 2:03 am

    I will dream BIG

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  8. Belina Kabira
    Belina Kabira on February 17, 2020 at 2:07 am

    I am 86kgs right now. I have been trying to loose this for the last 2 years. In 2017 I was about 100kgs. but i lost all that. But now my weight stagnates at between 82-86 kgs. please help me loose at least 15kgs. My weight goal is 70-74kgs. Thank you Jane.

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  9. Isnina
    Isnina on February 17, 2020 at 2:19 am

    I will dream big

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  11. Minneh
    Minneh on February 17, 2020 at 2:27 am

    I will dream Big!!

    Reply
  12. CHRISTINE KURIA
    CHRISTINE KURIA on February 17, 2020 at 2:39 am

    I will dream BIG

    Reply
  13. Pamela Muthoni
    Pamela Muthoni on February 17, 2020 at 2:42 am

    I will dream big and achieve.

    Reply
  14. Christine Karambu
    Christine Karambu on February 17, 2020 at 2:48 am

    ” I will dream BIG”

    Reply
  15. Rudy
    Rudy on February 17, 2020 at 2:52 am

    Queen Jane,
    Not a woman, but I feed off if your inspiration! I thank you and may GOD bless your days.

    HIS and yours,
    Rudy “V”

    Luke 1:37

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  16. Patricia
    Patricia on February 17, 2020 at 2:55 am

    You have just inspired me.. Iam the kind of person who says let me just loose even 5kgs yet in the real sense I need 20kgs off… Thank you.

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  17. Lucy
    Lucy on February 17, 2020 at 3:00 am

    I will dream BIG

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    • Joan
      Joan on February 17, 2020 at 7:42 pm

      I will dream big

      Reply
    • Janet
      Janet on February 20, 2020 at 4:38 am

      I will dream BIG

      Reply
  18. Carolyne
    Carolyne on February 17, 2020 at 3:08 am

    I will dream big

    Reply
  19. Chepngetich Joyce
    Chepngetich Joyce on February 17, 2020 at 3:22 am

    I will dream big

    Reply
  20. Janerose
    Janerose on February 17, 2020 at 3:27 am

    I will dream big

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    • Joey
      Joey on February 17, 2020 at 3:31 am

      #BHAG!!
      Thank you for this Jane.

      Reply
    • Beatrice
      Beatrice on February 17, 2020 at 3:32 am

      I will dream big

      Reply
    • Esther
      Esther on February 17, 2020 at 3:35 am

      I will dream big. I weigh 75kgs and I need to tone down to 60kgs so help me God. 21 days Wheat challenge here I come

      Reply
    • Chepkorir
      Chepkorir on February 17, 2020 at 4:08 am

      I will dream BIG

      Reply
    • Jeccie
      Jeccie on February 17, 2020 at 4:10 am

      I will dream Big

      Reply
    • Monica
      Monica on February 17, 2020 at 4:13 am

      I will dream big

      Reply
    • Lilian
      Lilian on February 17, 2020 at 4:46 am

      I will DREAM BIG

      Reply
    • Damaris mwangi
      Damaris mwangi on February 17, 2020 at 4:53 am

      I will dream big

      Reply
    • Rosemary
      Rosemary on February 17, 2020 at 5:04 am

      I will dream big

      Reply
    • Njambi
      Njambi on February 17, 2020 at 5:14 am

      I will dream big!

      Reply
    • Lydia
      Lydia on February 17, 2020 at 5:31 am

      I will dream BIG

      Reply
    • Susan kariuki
      Susan kariuki on February 17, 2020 at 7:06 am

      I will dream big!

      Reply
    • Amina
      Amina on February 17, 2020 at 10:47 am

      I will dream big

      Reply
    • Everlynne
      Everlynne on February 17, 2020 at 3:11 pm

      I will dream big.

      Reply
  21. shila
    shila on February 17, 2020 at 3:29 am

    I feel so challenged hun i have always wanted to shed off some extra kgs but i keep on cheating coz i dont see the results

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  22. Violah
    Violah on February 17, 2020 at 3:31 am

    I will dream big

    Reply
  23. Rhoda muthoni
    Rhoda muthoni on February 17, 2020 at 3:47 am

    I will dream big

    Reply
  24. Immaculate
    Immaculate on February 17, 2020 at 3:51 am

    Thanks for sharing this Jane. Its interestingly true. We need to be our own cheerleaders when it comes to birthing our dreams.. God never intended us to have and live mediocre lives. Let’s stop killing our dreams. Have a perfect week ladies

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  25. Winnie
    Winnie on February 17, 2020 at 4:00 am

    I will dream big

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  26. Joyce Ngendo
    Joyce Ngendo on February 17, 2020 at 4:01 am

    I’m gonna start speaking it into existence. I can do this

    Reply
  27. Lilian
    Lilian on February 17, 2020 at 4:06 am

    Yes to dreaming big

    Reply
  28. Redempta
    Redempta on February 17, 2020 at 4:07 am

    I will dream big

    Reply
  29. Michelle
    Michelle on February 17, 2020 at 4:15 am

    I will dream big

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  30. Rebecca Otieno
    Rebecca Otieno on February 17, 2020 at 4:15 am

    I really want to loose 10kgs

    Reply
  31. Wairimu
    Wairimu on February 17, 2020 at 4:17 am

    I will dream BIG!!!

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  32. Florence
    Florence on February 17, 2020 at 4:20 am

    I will follow up on my dreams. I will dream big. God I put you first. Lead me

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  33. wanja joseph
    wanja joseph on February 17, 2020 at 4:21 am

    i would like to lose 30kgs but the more i try the more i get big, what am i not doing right
    i am a kenyan lady aged 39years and i ma 90kgs wtith a hight of 5.2″

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    • josephine
      josephine on February 18, 2020 at 9:15 am

      we can dothis together Wanja

      Reply
  34. Ella Andeyo
    Ella Andeyo on February 17, 2020 at 4:31 am

    I will dream big

    Reply
  35. Ella Andeyo
    Ella Andeyo on February 17, 2020 at 4:31 am

    I will dream big

    Reply
  36. Florence Mzungu
    Florence Mzungu on February 17, 2020 at 4:38 am

    I will dream big

    Reply
  37. Sellah kerubo nyakundi
    Sellah kerubo nyakundi on February 17, 2020 at 4:42 am

    I will live to dream big. A dream that only will transform my body, thanks Jane for all your effort and support to help every woman live a healthy life
    I’m really dreaming of that size 18 that one day my baby dody will come back.

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  38. Wangui
    Wangui on February 17, 2020 at 4:43 am

    I will dream BIG

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  39. Leah
    Leah on February 17, 2020 at 4:56 am

    I will dream big

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  40. Mary Henry
    Mary Henry on February 17, 2020 at 4:57 am

    I’ll dream big

    Reply
    • Sheila
      Sheila on February 17, 2020 at 5:09 am

      I will dream big

      Reply
    • Leonida
      Leonida on February 17, 2020 at 6:13 am

      I will dream big

      Reply
      • Rhodah
        Rhodah on February 18, 2020 at 4:30 pm

        I will dream big

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    • Stella
      Stella on February 17, 2020 at 7:24 am

      Yes to dreaming big

      Reply
    • Rukuba Doreen
      Rukuba Doreen on February 17, 2020 at 8:00 am

      Thank u Jane u are the best

      Reply
    • Wanjeri
      Wanjeri on February 17, 2020 at 10:36 am

      This is an encouragement

      Reply
    • DOREN
      DOREN on February 17, 2020 at 11:54 am

      ‘Il dream big

      Reply
  41. Caro
    Caro on February 17, 2020 at 5:07 am

    That is quitet encouraging

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  42. Caro
    Caro on February 17, 2020 at 5:07 am

    That is quitet encouraging

    Reply
  43. Joy
    Joy on February 17, 2020 at 5:13 am

    I will dream big….heck I will be the best version of who I am meant to be 😊😊

    Reply
  44. Mo
    Mo on February 17, 2020 at 5:16 am

    I will dream big. I have had lupus for 13 years now and regularly worked out. I want the lupus gone!

    Reply
  45. Susan
    Susan on February 17, 2020 at 5:19 am

    I will dream big

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  46. Irene
    Irene on February 17, 2020 at 5:22 am

    I will dream big

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  47. Juliet
    Juliet on February 17, 2020 at 5:24 am

    I will dream big

    Reply
  48. Lilian Mvoyi
    Lilian Mvoyi on February 17, 2020 at 5:27 am

    I will dream BIG

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  49. nduta
    nduta on February 17, 2020 at 5:28 am

    I will dream BIG

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  50. Dorcas
    Dorcas on February 17, 2020 at 5:42 am

    CommentI will dream big

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  51. Alice
    Alice on February 17, 2020 at 5:55 am

    I will dream big

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    • Esther
      Esther on February 17, 2020 at 6:07 am

      I will dream big

      Reply
    • Esther
      Esther on February 17, 2020 at 6:24 am

      I will dream big

      Reply
    • Euniah
      Euniah on February 17, 2020 at 7:16 am

      I will dream big

      Reply
    • Carlo
      Carlo on February 17, 2020 at 7:20 am

      I will dream big

      Reply
  52. Maryann Murugi
    Maryann Murugi on February 17, 2020 at 6:04 am

    I will dream BIG

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  53. Sandra
    Sandra on February 17, 2020 at 6:05 am

    I will dream big

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  54. BECKY MDALI MWASI
    BECKY MDALI MWASI on February 17, 2020 at 6:06 am

    Dreaming BIG

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  55. Mirriam Mmboga
    Mirriam Mmboga on February 17, 2020 at 6:06 am

    I will dream big

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  56. Samira
    Samira on February 17, 2020 at 6:09 am

    i will DREAM BIG

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  57. Ruth orket
    Ruth orket on February 17, 2020 at 6:39 am

    I Will dream big

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  58. Jessicah Welemba
    Jessicah Welemba on February 17, 2020 at 6:41 am

    I will dream BIG!

    Reply
  59. Winnie
    Winnie on February 17, 2020 at 6:48 am

    Inspired! I will dream big

    Reply
  60. Dorcas
    Dorcas on February 17, 2020 at 6:54 am

    I will dream big.

    Reply
  61. Mercy
    Mercy on February 17, 2020 at 6:55 am

    I will dream big

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  62. Pam
    Pam on February 17, 2020 at 7:01 am

    I will dream big

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  63. Audrey
    Audrey on February 17, 2020 at 7:32 am

    I will dream big..

    Reply
  64. Njoroge
    Njoroge on February 17, 2020 at 7:33 am

    I will dream big

    Reply
  65. Jane Kamau
    Jane Kamau on February 17, 2020 at 7:33 am

    Oh yes, now more than ever..

    Reply
  66. maureen
    maureen on February 17, 2020 at 7:48 am

    i will dream big

    Reply
  67. Gloria
    Gloria on February 17, 2020 at 8:45 am

    I will dream big

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  68. naima
    naima on February 17, 2020 at 9:05 am

    i will dream big

    Reply
  69. Jenifer
    Jenifer on February 17, 2020 at 9:29 am

    I will

    Reply
  70. Gladwell
    Gladwell on February 17, 2020 at 9:49 am

    I will dream BIG

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  71. Florence Njoroge
    Florence Njoroge on February 17, 2020 at 10:34 am

    Simply awesome and encouraging

    Reply
  72. Dorcas
    Dorcas on February 17, 2020 at 10:34 am

    I will dream big

    Reply
  73. Nancy Kuyah
    Nancy Kuyah on February 17, 2020 at 10:51 am

    I will dream big

    Reply
  74. Joan
    Joan on February 17, 2020 at 11:21 am

    I will dream big

    Reply
  75. catherine
    catherine on February 17, 2020 at 12:41 pm

    i will dream big

    Reply
  76. Mme Malela
    Mme Malela on February 17, 2020 at 12:45 pm

    I will dream Big

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  77. Josphine Vuguza
    Josphine Vuguza on February 17, 2020 at 1:24 pm

    I WILL DREAM BIG

    Reply
  78. Josphine Vuguza
    Josphine Vuguza on February 17, 2020 at 1:24 pm

    I WILL DREAM BIG

    Reply
  80. Irene Njihia
    Irene Njihia on February 17, 2020 at 3:09 pm

    I will dream big

    Reply
  81. ann
    ann on February 17, 2020 at 3:52 pm

    I will dream big n get myself a number of flats.

    Reply
  82. Mwende
    Mwende on February 17, 2020 at 6:00 pm

    I will dream BIG!!

    Reply
  83. Hazel
    Hazel on February 17, 2020 at 6:35 pm

    Jane am sorry for not being able to keep it up but I promise I’ll do my best to do my duty thanks for the inspiration.

    Reply
  84. Jennifer
    Jennifer on February 17, 2020 at 6:49 pm

    I will dream big

    Reply
  86. Betty kamau
    Betty kamau on February 17, 2020 at 11:25 pm

    I will dream big

    Reply
  87. Cecilia
    Cecilia on February 18, 2020 at 4:14 am

    Am in

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  88. Cynthia
    Cynthia on February 18, 2020 at 5:19 am

    I shall dream big…thanks Jane

    Reply
  89. Nyambura
    Nyambura on February 18, 2020 at 5:30 am

    I will dream big! 🙂

    Reply
  90. josephine
    josephine on February 18, 2020 at 9:16 am

    have started dreaming big @Jane

    Reply
  91. Hedaya
    Hedaya on February 18, 2020 at 9:19 am

    I am walking my dreams BIG. I have written them down so that I will remind my self of them everyday. So help me God.

    Reply
  92. Imani Kuziwa
    Imani Kuziwa on February 18, 2020 at 10:09 am

    I WILL DREAM BIG. 😃

    Reply
  93. Nelly
    Nelly on February 18, 2020 at 12:42 pm

    I will dream big

    Reply
  94. Loise
    Loise on February 18, 2020 at 2:00 pm

    I will dream big. Thank you. Beautiful read

    Reply
  95. Joyce
    Joyce on February 19, 2020 at 6:00 am

    I will dream BIG

    Reply
  96. Charity
    Charity on February 19, 2020 at 9:30 am

    I am dreaming BIG

    Reply
  97. Andi
    Andi on February 19, 2020 at 9:40 am

    thanks Jane
    great motivation here.

    Reply
    • ANNA
      ANNA on February 20, 2020 at 8:53 am

      I WILL DREAM BIG

      Reply
  98. Elizabeth
    Elizabeth on February 20, 2020 at 12:42 pm

    I will dream big

    Reply
  99. caroline
    caroline on February 20, 2020 at 1:17 pm

    I will dream BIG

    Reply
  100. Fahe
    Fahe on February 26, 2020 at 7:58 am

    I’m dreaming big

    Reply
  101. Grace Gichobi
    Grace Gichobi on February 28, 2020 at 11:22 am

    I am dreaming big

    1. I will lose 30kgs.
    2. I will acquire my 2nd Doctorate.
    3. I will be financially stable.
    4. I will be emotionally stable sufficient
    5.I will build my career towards my dream.

    Reply
    • Josephine
      Josephine on March 14, 2020 at 11:25 am

      I will dream big

      Reply
  102. Lilian
    Lilian on March 16, 2020 at 2:42 pm

    I will dream big

    Reply
  103. Evalyne
    Evalyne on March 20, 2020 at 10:58 am

    I will dream big.
    Wow, Thanks Jane.

    Reply

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